“Be Kind. Life is a mirror.” – Unknown

Everything reflects you. I used to be unaware of this fact. My ex-husband was a mirror. All the toxic relationships in my life were mirrors. I blamed my surroundings and everything around me until I looked in the mirror. I looked in the mirror and realized I was the source of my own pain.

I realized that change does not start with people; it starts with me. I let go of a lot of people to start my healing process. I had tolerated a lot from people, not knowing how to let them go. But when I started loving me, cleansing me, healing me, and forgiving me, my life changed. The mirrors changed; I started reflecting love, kindness, and healthy mirrors around me.

A mirror is beyond physical appearance; it goes deeper within your soul. What do you see when you look in the mirror? I used to criticize myself so much and say negative things about myself in the mirror: I am too black; I have a big forehead; I don’t like my teeth; my eyes are big. I mean, I cherrypicked myself to death. The people around me reflected back to me what I was feeling. I hated me and so people around me hated me. They criticized me, but I was criticizing myself as well. I was taught to love God first and then others and then yourself. I put myself last and put others before me, not knowing I was the source of my own pain.

While I started my self-love journey in February 2019, I had separated from my ex-husband mentally in December 2017 and physically in September 2017. I remember my ex-husband telling me at the time, “It’s hard to love you.” This statement had crushed me then, but I now realize he was totally right. How could I expect him to love me when I wasn’t loving myself?

I realized all the mirrors around me reflected me. I was creating all these bad relationships because I did not have a relationship with myself. I went into solitude, deleting the old mirrors out of my life. I got into a new mirror and started doing the work. I started healing, forgiving, and loving myself. I started doing things that set my soul on fire and made me happy. I stopped waiting on others to show up and I started creating the life I wanted and enjoying my it. I am extremely happy, living my life the way I want and honoring my feelings. I don’t accept or tolerate things that irritate my soul. I no longer need to understand why I don’t like a person. If my soul says bad vibes, I simply listen, and later on, I get an understanding, but I don’t question my spirit.

I am learning to move with and be obedient to my spirit. Allowing my spirit to take control and living from the inside out has been a game-changer for me. I am learning so much about the spiritual world. I have been on this journey for about four years and I love it. As I look in the mirror now, I see her beauty, I see her light, I see her love, and I see her soul. I choose to see the good in me and I choose to love all of me.

I look forward to hearing from you, talking to you, connecting with you, and standing enlightened with you.

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Denetria Brijel

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